Let’s talk about weddings for more Valentine’s Day mode.
My husband and I have attended a number of wedding ceremonies, but Carl and Cynthia’s special day tops our list. It was the coolest and most spontaneous wedding event we have ever gone to. We totally admired how the lovebirds (term perfectly fits this couple who are literally in love with nature and birds!) came up with a simple, super relaxed yet memorable wedding day.
An entire day spent with happy people can really make you feel good and come up with really wonderful ideas. Here’s one realization I got at the end of our road trip to the historic and beautiful province of Bataan: Attending weddings can do wonders for your own marriage too!
Yes, I know that the bride and groom are the real stars of the wedding. But it is also a celebration of love where all family members, friends and guests are showered with its warmth, blessings and magic. So for all the couples who are about to attend weddings soon, let me share some of my “wedding guest’s thoughts” which may even pass as tips on how to make marriages stronger.
1. Turn weddings into quality couple time.
It’s your chance to dress up, eat delightful food and just enjoy this romantic and lovely time with the newlyweds. If your child is not part of the entourage, consider attending weddings just as a couple. You can always schedule a family fun day anyway. Spend the day recalling your own love story. How mushy were your wedding vow exchanges? Where did you spend your first night as a couple? And so on.
We were so lucky that Carl and Cynthia decided to celebrate their union away from the city. Guests were able to explore the very enchanting Las Casas Filipinas De Acuzar in Bagac, Bataan. It was the best place to spend our much needed couple time. It was also one of the few times we get to use our cameras and get rid of those crappy and grainy smartphone selfies.
Our couple time was spent taking pictures with hubby as the photographer and me as his very willing and cooperative model.
2. Listen to the priest’s homily during the wedding ceremony and you may get the best marriage advise ever.
You might just hear yourself say, “Tama ka jan, Father!” in the middle of the homily. The priest who celebrated the mass at Carl and Cynthia’s wedding shared this insightful analogy between the act of flying kites and making marriages work.
Both must have the right amount of tension and release to soar high and work. Too much tension on the string prevents the kite from flying just as too much control and not letting your partner shine on his own create trouble in a relationship. This simple analogy can give way to zillions of realizations you can come up as a couple. We had an extended conversation about how to fly kites and enjoy more as a couple in our bus trip back to Manila.
3. Always remember to take nice couple pictures (read: perfect to be an FB profile picture or even picture frame on the wall worthy).
It’s funny that we always remember to take photos with the newlyweds and then discover on our way home that we forgot to take pictures together as a couple. We definitely learned our lesson this time. Thanks to our road trip buddies who always took time to hold the camera and take these memorable shots for us.
Nanays, do you love going to weddings? What part of the wedding ceremony do you find most romantic? Share your thoughts and let’s all celebrate love, love, love this Valentine’s Day!